One thing feminism got wrong:
Sure old gender roles were too restrictive for women, but I was watching Ben Shapiro interview Dr. Christina Hoff Sommers, and she said the surveys show, paraphrasing her, “20% of women want to be full time career women, 60% want to work part-time, 20% of women want to be stay at home moms”….proof above….at 21-23 minutes, in the you-tube video above, with Dr. Christina Hoff Sommers.
The women’s movement pushed all girls to enter the work force. Here’s the problem with that: That’s not even what most women want.
The women’s movement trivialized the biological role of women, especially the role of stay at home moms. As Hillary Clinton put it once, about her decision to have a career, instead of being a stay at home mom: ““I suppose I could have stayed home, baked cookies and had teas,” she said…..In America we are all about pushing girls to work, and a long work week. Feminists push girls to “have careers and smash the Glass Ceiling”. Again, simple fact: This isn’t even what most women want.
What do women want? Most want to work part time, or be stay at home moms….and about 20% want to be like Hillary.
In Holland they have a more sensible, practical approach.
The Dutch government set an aim of a reduced work….for both genders. It gave both genders, choice. How did women react? How did men react? They found most women took the option of a reduced work week…86% of women preferred a shorter work week and a few men also did….12% of men preferred a shorter work week.
The Dutch way, seems better to me.
American feminism is run by aggressive career women, who are in the 20% of women who mostly want to focus on careers. As a personal choice, I support that. Career feminists add a lot, and make tremendous contributions to society. I support their choice.
What I don’t support is pushing this approach, onto the 80% of women, who don’t want to live that way. And it turns out, most women don’t want to be career women, solely focused on their careers. Radical gender feminists assume that all women are like them: just focused on career.
The data says that most women are not like gender feminists. And the data says most women don’t want to be solely focused on careers. Yet the radical feminist view, that all women must “Smash the Patriarchy”, is the dominant view of feminism. What this means is, ironically feminists don’t seem to understand women.
Thing to say to feminists: Hey…you might want to start listening to women!
Yes: Feminists need to start actually listening to women. On you-tube Ben Shapiro-Chistina Hoff Sommers, listen at 21 minutes, till 23 minutes, to confirm the numbers I quoted, about women’s preference, for working full time, or part-time, or being at home full time….I call it the 20/60/20 Rule…20% of women want to be full time career women, 60% of women want to work part-time, and 20% of women want to be full time stay at home moms.
It seems to me, that if we want to build the kind of society we are all happy with, we need to focus less on ideology, and more on facts. We need to ask people what they want. Feminist theory is based on a false assumption: that all women want to basically act like all men, compete economically with men, work just as much as men, till gender parity in wages is reached. These are all false assumptions.
Feminists need to stop judging women, who want to be stay at home Moms. No one judges women anymore, for wanting to be a full-time career woman. And we need to tell feminists, most women would simply prefer to be at home with children, or work part time.
That needs to be the goal feminists push for, when pushing for public policy.
In long term studies, over decades, since about the 1960s, when 2nd Wave Feminism started, women have gotten slightly unhappier, every year. The current Radical Feminist Assumptions about how to organize our society, and the lives of women, are simply wrong.