Do women love men?
Women DO love men, just like men love women. The difference is, men love women, just for being women. A woman would never love a man, just for being a man. That’s not how she is wired by evolution. Women only love a man, for what he can do for her. She is more than willing to shift her allegiance of love to another man very quickly, if another man can do more for her. This sexual competition and dynamic, it built all civilization and kept the human race alive.
There is nothing more unconditionally loved, than a pretty young woman in her 20s. She does nothing for that love. She doesn’t earn it. She is just born and grows up beautiful. Then people love her. Men devote their lives, to such women. This is Female Privilege. The other side of this human equation is: There is nothing less valued, than a young man in his 20s, who has “accomplished” nothing.
There are deep evolutionary reasons for this. Women have a very short breeding season. Men compete for her, she doesn’t compete for him if she is pretty enough. Because he competes for her, she chooses “the best one”…in order for her to have a good life. Because a young man in his 20s may have “accomplished” nothing, he has no economic value for her, so he is seen as having low value by all of society. She won’t love him.
It’s delusional to expect a woman to love a man, the way a man loves a woman. Men love women, like men love women, because men competed for women, during evolution. Most men left no genetic offspring. Only a minority of men succeeded in evolution. The male winners were the ones who were the most slavish in their devotion to women and longing for women. Evolution was a very different story for women: Most women left genetic offspring…..80% of women left offspring, but only 40% of men left offspring. This means it was the male role to compete with other men, for women in evolution. This shaped the male and female versions of “love”.
The female version of “love” is quite different than the male version of love. Remember, women get pregnant. Babies cost a lot of time and effort. Choosing the best man was how females survived evolution. This gave rise to hyper-gamy. This gave rise to the female tendency, to make her love for you conditional, on what you can do for her. That means social prestige, money and power, which the Beatles had when I was young. Female tendency for hyper-gamy and insatiable love for Alpha Men was on full display during Beatlemania:
Women do love men, very much. Especially and mostly Alpha Men.
This means she will never, never, never love you, as you love her. But it also means you will never love her, the way she loves you. You as a male, did not evolve for that form of love. She did. Not you. You will never find a stadium of 10,000 men, with a few woman at the center of the stage, with all the men sexually excited.
Women look at men as a utility. However, women are not bad for looking at men, as a utility…..cost/benefit analysis etc. Their position is a reflection of sexual dimorphism, it originates out of it. Women are smaller than men physically, weaker than men, they get pregnant. So they opt for men who can be useful to them, because of the vulnerability of females, in human survival.
Most men react to this, as if females are abhorrent for doing so, for judging men so harshly. This is a nonsense view. Typical male reaction judging women arises out of typical male romanticism….which is deluded foolishness. That romanticism arises out of the male psyche, not the female one. Male romanticism is a mental projection which sees in women, what is not there, but is inside the male animal. It is a view of love, based on the needs of a male, not a female.
The male is in another position, in evolution. It is not the position of physical vulnerability, like the female has. The male position is in the position of utility vulnerability. Since the female makes the romantic choice, since the female controls the sexual choice, she chooses a male who will protect her physically and financially.
The situation of male romantic delusion evolved in the male psyche, as a necessary way nature tricked males, about the nature of females, so they would breed with them. The central delusion of male romanticism of longing and romantic need for the female, is that the male assumes that what is in the male, is also in the female. That is pure projection fantasy of infantile proportions. That view of love is utterly naive of course. Men are hurt when they intuit that, because men are, when it comes to romance, basically babies in the woods. The male view of love is just that…..the male view of love. We have to make peace with women, as they are, not how we wish they were: The female view of love is just that…the female view of love.
The error most men make is assuming the male view of love is the same as the female view of love. This is utter naive nonsense. And as harsh as the female view of love and men is, as uncaring as it is, we have to recognize that the male view of love towards females, is just as harsh as the male view of females, just as uncaring. We men judge women almost exclusively on physical lines….beauty and youth.
You think that the male view towards women is not utterly cruel? Of course it is. Of course both views of love are utterly cruel, because both views of love are based on the ruthlessness of evolution, which underpins those views. The only thing that binds men and women together when it comes to love, is the utter cruelty we both share, to the opposite gender.
However, despite the cruelty at the heart of love, there is also something besides just plain cruelty, because we are both human, we both need and love the other half….in spite of our cruelty to each other. Women do in fact, love men, just like men love women. However, women love men in a female way. Men love women, in a male way. We are not the same. We are quite different.
Feminism of course, denies all this. That’s because feminism is run by women, who evolved with smaller brains than men. That’s why feminism is so stupid…it was built by women, who have smaller brains. Smaller brains which evolved for different needs, have different strengths and weaknesses, than the male brains. Built into the smaller female brain, is different hardware and software, when it comes to love. Feminism says we can have equality, including economic equality between the sexes. Love will be fine, they say. Men and women will live in harmony, they say. That feminist hope is nonsense of course. One of the basic reasons economic equality is nonsense, is that females are wired by natural selection, to only love men, when men give them more resources and status, than they already have….hyper-gamy. Economic equality between the sexes destroys the very basis of women to even possibly love men, because it destroys the very conditions under which female love of men, actually can bloom like a flower. So moving towards equality actually destroys the species…..see my post on Turd’s Law:
Because we are moving towards a feminist society of economic equality between the sexes, we are destroying even the possibility of love between the sexes. We are even destroying even the potential of love, between the sexes.
Feminism is at war with love….as well as the genetic survivability of our culture.
That’s why there are mgtow. They are male casualties of feminism.
Milo was right: Feminism is cancer. Stage 5 Terminal Cancer, for both men and women of all races.
The only people who “win” under feminism, are the people who produce cat food….
Click, click….here kitty….
However, how does love come about in evolution, between men and women?
To understand that, we have to look to the past, for patterns that worked.
Evolution left telltale signs and footprints, all over the place. We evolved in small tribes, under conditions of Darwinian selection, under Patriarchy, with short lives, high mortality rates particularly for men, and short breeding seasons for the human female. In our small tribes, under these conditions the practical social arrangement was a sexual division of labor, with women concentrating on caring for children and the social life of the community. Out of this arose female nature.
One of the biggest problem we face with feminism, is female incursions, into male space, like Turd Flinging Monkey says. This brings up questions about natural tendencies based on evolution, natural gender roles, why they arose.
Women’s nature is to manage social relations among family. This works in a Patriarchal society, where women have a clearly defined role in society. A role where women concentrate on family and children. Then the female impulse to manage social relations, it works just fine. Women have this evolved tendency because they evolved to care for children and other women.
But women didn’t evolve to lead the tribe. Men did. Men also evolved a tendency to protect women and children. But women did not evolve a tendency to protect men, women and children. That didn’t happen in evolution. It doesn’t work that way. That’s why taking away male authority does not work. When women’s impulse for social manipulation is controlled by strong male authority above them, society works just fine. As part of this, it works when leading women do most of the job of socially controlling younger women. Older women would socially control younger women, keep them in line….when there is a sexual division of roles. When women become socially “equal” to men, there is no sexual division of roles, so there is nothing restraining female tendency to manage and manipulate grown men. And that never works for very long. It goes against nature itself. That’s why the universities are emptying of men. Men don’t want it. They want out. They sense it: Female social dominance doesn’t work.
This pattern is the same in every race, every religion, every ethnicity. It’s a human pattern and it’s natural. Think about a primitive human tribe, like the Native North American Iroquois Indians, before the White man came here. Like all tribes in our past, there was strong male leadership of a few Alpha Males….who led the tribe. Women had their role, men had theirs. That’s the only social pattern that works, long term. It’s the pattern of 99.9% of our history and evolution. All societies return to that pattern. Those that don’t, disappear genetically. Feminism is an attempt to throw away all our evolutionary patterns and put in their place a new pattern based on “equality” or even worse, women leading. The feminist pattern will never work in a billion years. It’s only been in place a few years, it’s already destroying us. We get rid of feminism, or nature will get rid of us.
Love between the sexes requires specific and workable social relations in order for love to work. We are abandoning those social relations and we are embarking on a vast social experiment that is already failing.
The unnoticed casualty of feminism, is romantic love itself….with all it’s delusions.
Bring back the Patriarchy and love…as we knew it… returns.
Otherwise we will have to find a new way to have peace between men and women.