Marriage is at an all time historical low. About 40% of babies in the U.S. are born outside of marriage, according to the Center for Disease Control, so you don’t have to be married, to have children.
And almost half of legal marriages end in divorce. (actually the divorce rate is much higher, if you count coupled unions where two people live together without legal papers, have kids, then break up, the divorce rate is over 70%….the gov’t lies about this)
Cohabitation break up rates:
Pew has some interesting comments on marriage:
Quote from Pew: ” A new “marriage gap” in the United States is increasingly aligned with a growing income gap. Marriage, while declining among all groups, remains the norm for adults with a college education and good income but is now markedly less prevalent among those on the lower rungs of the socio-economic ladder. The survey finds that those in this less-advantaged group are as likely as others to want to marry, but they place a higher premium on economic security as a condition for marriage. This is a bar that many may not meet.”
In other words, marriage is now mostly for the upper classes. Middle and lower middle class people don’t get married much any more, and definitely not incels. Why are women in the upper classes still marrying? The men in that class, have all the money, which is what women want. Why are women in the middle class and lower classes not marrying? The men in those classes don’t have enough money, to interest the women, because family life is expensive, and the men in the middle class can’t afford it, anymore.
Not complicated: Women are all hyper-gamous: they like to marry up. Since feminism came in, women are catching up in wages. This means there are no men for these women to marry, since many women earn more than the men. Divorce goes up 40% once women start to out-earn men:
Status is all relative, to other groups. In the past 50 years, women have gained the most status, and lower end men have lost the most status, as technology changed jobs, many jobs went overseas. Men lost, but women lose in this also, because there are not enough men, that women want to marry.
And women have a very, very short biological window, to have children…..known as “The Wall” among Men’s Rights Activists. Basically, women evolved to bear young between about age 15 and age 30, and have done so throughout evolution….till now. After age 30, genetic defects start to creep into biology, after age 30 female fertility declines steadily and after age 35 female fertility drops like a penny tossed off a skyscraper. These are the biological limits that evolution has placed on human females.
That’s why feminist social policy is so out of whack, with Mother Nature: Feminists told women to go to school and compete in the job market, which often weakens women’s chances of finding a husband, and do this the same time female attractiveness in the sexual market is rapidly declining.
Women have followed feminist advice, and now we are in a mess…incels are a symptom of feminism, why it’s toxic and can’t work for most people as a social strategy. Why that is true: If we ever reach gender wage parity, this will mean that for any given random man or woman, there is a 50% chance, that she earns more than he does. When that happens, she is not interested, because if she is going to have children, she must have a man financially support her. So by striving for pay equality, we take away the possibility of women getting married, not just men.
And that means an end to stable long term relationships, and end to stable marriage, which has been proven the most beneficial for raising children, with the best social outcomes. Decades of social research confirm this. Unfortunately with the new social changes, for much of the population, stable marriage is finished. The exception for this rule, is of course the upper class, who have most of the money. And since upper class people control society, they make all the rules, and their version of reality, rules. And upper class men are doing fine, but this blinds them to social problems. Women want upper class men, not middle and lower class men.
Women definitely don’t want incels. So by our new social logic of feminism, we have created a new social and economic war, based on class. And into this toxic social mix, feminists and liberals push for massive infusions of populations of young male migrants? Insane.
Talk about creating a stick of dynamite, then lighting a match.
Professor Jordan Peterson explains the science of female hyper-gamy:
Maybe this is why Professor Peterson commented on “enforced monogamy”, which got him attacked by the New York Times, and feminists, both of whom are part of the problem, because they don’t understand the new social dynamics created by feminism….including the problems.
Feminism really benefited upper class women, and upper class men. The women got to go to university, then make a lot of money and have fulfilling careers. That was wonderful for many women. At university they met, then married upper class men, and most of the upper class men went on to earn a lot of money and control society. The upper class men earn enough money, that the upper class women could work part time and the upper class women still make more money than most men working full time….while having successful families. So that’s part of the reason why professional couples have most of the money, and feminism works quite well for the upper class.
Upper middle class marriages have gotten more stable than middle class marriage, over time, while lower class and middle class marriage has destabilized. “The number of married, college-educated couples that split by their seventh anniversary was 20 percent in the 1980s and is now just 11 percent.”…so marriage has always been far more stable for upper middle class people, and now it’s even more stable, because the upper middle class has most of the money. So the women in the upper middle class, are not leaving:
Feminism only works for the upper classes. For everyone else it’s a disaster. No wonder Charles Murray wrote a book about America coming apart, on class lines.
Women only want upper class men. This creates a sexual and social situation similar to polygamous and it destabilizes society. Right now on social media, about 80% of single women are chasing 20% of men. Guess which men?…You guessed it, women chase the men with the most status.
So we are creating the conditions for a social war….and a few civil wars, in Europe and the United States and other advanced countries. People who support feminism have no idea what they are doing, the fire they are playing with….in my opinion. Societies stay stable if most men get to be stabilized by successful long term relationships with a woman, and with families. Many of the social gains that women have made, are to be applauded, but a lot of the negative and future toxic side effects of feminism, were not understood when feminism came in, and are not yet understood, by the elite. Feminism destroys the chances of a happy family life for many men and women. Some of the effects of feminism are quite toxic. It was not the intention of feminism, to destabilize society. Much of feminism was pushed forward, with good intention. But now we understand more and need to re-examine how things work, socially.
One very very disturbing social trend that seems to be linked to the rise of feminism, is the rise of Incels:
Maybe the assumptions of feminism need to be re-examined, in light of the effects of our social experiment.